The postpartum phase is often a mystery to those not experiencing it. It’s even a mystery to me at times, because each postpartum experience is different! I think we focus a lot of energy on the physical needs of a postpartum mother. These are absolutely, 100%, without-a-doubt important. Bring her a meal, and nourish her soul too, right?
But, there are other needs that we often forget. Here’s an infographic we created to help remind us of these other needs as we interact with postpartum mothers. Use it as a guide as you prepare to visit a new mother:
Mom physically needs wholesome food. Bring a meal that’s warm and nutritious.
Mom emotionally needs openness and vulnerability. Ask her how she’s doing in a way that’s genuine. And if she seems open to it, be inquisitive to the challenges or concerns she alludes to.
Mom mentally needs quiet and stillness. Take your bells off before you go in, use a soft voice and maintain a peaceful presence.
Mom spiritually needs acknowledgement. Affirm everything she says and – if you feel comfortable – tell her how amazing you think she is for doing all she’s done: labor, childbirth, taking care of a newborn.
The list could go on and on. I think if we all used ideas like this when visiting postpartum mothers, we could forge strong connections and leave mothers feeling refreshing and nurtured, instead of depleted after hosting guests mostly interested in holding the new baby. Onward, support people! Go out there and bless new mothers everywhere.
How does Marabou support women?
Moms who used to “lie-in” for forty days now have to pick themselves up within a week to get back to work. Grandmas, sisters and best friends who otherwise would have been there to help a woman transition into motherhood now live too far away and often can’t take time away from their full time job. Household chores and caring for older children fall on the woman who just delivered a new life and whose body needs rest. But we live in a sprawled world and helping hands are plentiful but often too far to be of benefit.
Marabou Services is a unique gift registry which provides services instead of stuff. Most mom’s get too many onesies, too many baby blankets and not enough helping hands. How can you give you daughter living in Japan married to a Navy sailor a helping hand? How can you lend a hand to your best friend who moved to California? How do you ask for help when none of your family lives near you anymore?
With a Marabou gift registry you can ask for any service you know will be of benefit during postpartum recovery.
Postpartum doulas for a first time mom
House cleanings for moms of multiples
Childcare for moms with older children!
Once your registry is created, add it to any other registry or post it to your Facebook and ask that your friends and family contribute to your postpartum service, rather than buying you more stuff.